January 30, 2023

The failings of ‘choice Feminism’


A while back I came across two stories that served as shining examples of the failings of ‘choice Feminism’. ‘Choice Feminism’ may not be a term we’re all familiar with but its basic premise is one society holds onto most fervently. The basic idea is that whatever a woman chooses is empowering, that Feminism/women’s empowerment […]

January 23, 2023

Instagram and Marriage Stability


I came across a random YouTube short where the man said, “Don’t play hard to get, there’s a ton of women on my feed” or something to that effect. The idea is a common one, choices these days are endless. But, of course, it doesn’t take much to realize that that is an illusion. There […]

January 16, 2023

Musings on Eve: Ways of Knowing


I always thought it was a fact that Eve was made from Adam’s rib. In ‘religious talk’ that would mean it was agreed upon (by scholars) or that there was something directly from Hadith or Quran we could point to and say, “Eve was created from Adam’s rib”. But, no —at least, not exactly. There is and […]

January 9, 2023

Modern ‘Traditional’ Wives


In some ways, the housewife of today continues the tradition of the housewives of yesteryear. Cooking, cleaning, attending to her husband’s needs, and depending on him to foot the bill for their living expenses. Yet there is something fundamentally different; the social, cultural, and economic environment has had drastic changes. In some ways, the housewife […]

January 2, 2023

Reminders benefit the believers


وَذَكِّرْ فَإِنَّ ٱلذِّكْرَىٰ تَنفَعُ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ ٥٥ And remind (by preaching the Qur’ân, O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم), for verily, the reminding profits the believers. 51:55 Translation: Muhammad Taqi-ud-Din al-Hilali & Muhammad Muhsin Khan The clouds to the right of my house look like mountains. At least they have for the past week that I’ve […]

December 26, 2022

God, Gender, and Pronouns [Excerpt]


Subscribe here to read the full essay. It was back in college when I first heard someone refer to God (god) by the feminine third-person singular pronoun. I was in the psychology club and we had alumni visiting us, I don’t remember her name nor much else she said but I vaguely recall her leaning […]

December 19, 2022

Life is a gift


 يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱتَّقُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍۢ وَٰحِدَةٍۢ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًۭا كَثِيرًۭا وَنِسَآءًۭ ۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ ٱلَّذِى تَسَآءَلُونَ بِهِۦ وَٱلْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًۭا ١ O humanity! Be mindful of your Lord Who created you from a single soul, and from it He created its mate, and through both […]

November 21, 2022

Submitting to Abstract Patriarchy


I was surprised to find myself agreeing with the sentiment that women today don’t need men. I usually subscribe to the notion that men are providers and protectors but as time passes that idea seems increasingly outdated. Most women today work and make their own money, and society —at least in the West, is safe enough for […]

November 7, 2022

In the absence of meaning


We were supposed to find meaning in true love, but love fades and divorce is abundant. And we were supposed to find meaning in our jobs, but entire fields become obsolete and we become discarded. It’s been long since we were supposed to find meaning in patriotism, too painful to dedicate one’s self to an […]

September 12, 2022

The myth of the “involved” father


A few years ago, the New York Times published an article on black fatherhood. It felt like an exercise in gaslighting and propaganda. While the article didn’t lie in any technical sense, it did pervert the truth for its own interests. According to data from the Center for Disease Control; black fathers who don’t live […]

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