Liberals have been pushing the idea that, “transwomen are women” and anyone who —daringly or mistakenly, “misgenders” them ought to be ready for the wrath that will ensue. Transwomen are women (they say). Youtube channels like Queer Kids, in fact, encourage us to ask strangers what pronoun they’d like to be called in the same way we’d ask someone what their name is. Gender is no longer an obvious link to biological sex, it is whatever anyone feels themselves to be. They’ve so beaten this idea into us that even conservatives politely refer to Caitlyn Jenner as “she”.
So those of us on the outside of their movement are particularly baffled by the score of articles and arguments from liberals that a trans-person not “revealing” their trans identity would be deception. The heart of the backlash came after an article entitled, No, I Don’t Have To Tell You I’m Trans Before Dating You by Tiffany Berruti. In the article Berruti explains that many cis people (their term for men and women who align their gender with the sex they’re born in to, i.e. us regular folk) believe a trans-person to be “lying” (her quotes) or deceptive when a trans-person does not reveal that information. She states:
“Their argument is that they aren’t attracted to trans people, so they should have a right to know if a potential partner is trans before dating them. These people view transness as a mere physical quality that they just aren’t attracted to. The issue with this logic is that the person in question is obviously attracted to trans people, or else they wouldn’t be worried about accidentally going out with one. So these people aren’t attracted to trans people because of some physical quality, they aren’t attracted to trans people because they are disgusted by the very idea of transness.”
According to liberal logic, she’s right. If Caitlyn Jenner is a woman just like any other woman —as liberals insist, if trans women are women, then what exactly is a trans-person to “reveal”. According to liberal logic a trans woman is just as legitimately a woman as I am. Now the same liberals who chant “transwomen are women” simultaneously purport that a transwoman who doesn’t tell her date that she is trans is deceptive? That’s mind-numbing. They either are real woman, or they’re not. If they are, then straight liberal men should have no problem dating them. If they aren’t, well deception would be an accurate description of their behavior when they don’t reveal their identity. Not just in dating but when they use bathrooms, go in to dressing rooms or attend “women only” events. You can’t have it both ways, they’re either real women and should be treated as such in every aspect of their life or they’re men playing dress up and consciously deceiving everyone they do not reveal their identity to.
As I wrote in my article on transgender people some time ago:
“I will concede that I find something quite insulting about the entire phenomenon. It is an insult to the other sex to think that by “dressing like them,” “talking like them,” or claiming to “feel like them,” you can, therefore, be them. Being a man is about more than wearing a suit, and being a woman is about more than putting on makeup.”
A trans woman dating a man without revealing her full identity is deceptive precisely because transwomen are not women, it’s unfortunate liberals are too busy deceiving themselves to admit it.
so i hope its ok by you that im a muslim woman but i wear only men’s cologne, men’s watch, belt, hold doors open for men in an act of chivalry, and yet i am not interested in transitioning gender. i obviously don’t wear makeup or hijab but for years i wore a hat to cover my hair. i resent having to pray in basements and horrible womens sections of masjids going to mosques in ny is the only place i am a second class human. in ohio there were some nice equal facility access to main musallah mosques and i will try one i get time to help change ny mosques
Great article! I’d like to see more like this.